Manipulation
People who manipulate others often do so in order to get their own needs met. They may try to control how the other person feels in order to get them to do something that they want, or they may try to make the other person feel guilty in order to get them to comply with their requests. Manipulative people may also withhold love or support from the other person as a way of getting them to do what they want.
Manipulation can be harmful to both the manipulator and the victim. The victim of manipulation may end up feeling controlled, used, and/or unloved, which can lead to low self-esteem and even depression. The manipulator, on the other hand, may end up feeling guilty, ashamed, and/or anxious about their behavior, which can also lead to low self-esteem and depression.
If you think you might be manipulating others in your relationships, it is important to seek help from a therapist or counselor who can help you learn healthier ways of relating to others
Emotional bullying
Emotional bullying can take many different forms. It might involve saying hurtful things to someone or making them feel excluded from a group. It could also involve spreading rumors about someone or trying to control their behavior.
No matter what form it takes, emotional bullying is always about trying to harm someone else emotionally. And it’s never okay. If you’re engaging in this type of behavior, it’s important to stop and think about the consequences of your actions. You could be damaging someone for life.
If you’re being emotionally bullied, it’s important to reach out for help. Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or teacher about what’s going on. They can offer support and guidance and help you figure out how to deal with the situation.
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Caretaking to the detriment of our own wellness
Neglecting our own needs in order to take care of others is a common form of codependent behavior. We may put the needs of our partner, children, or parents ahead of our own, sacrificing our time, energy, and resources in order to take care of them. This can lead to burnout and resentment if we don’t make time for ourselves as well.
Enabling harmful behavior is another form of codependent behavior. We may enable someone’s alcoholism or drug addiction by covering for them at work or home, or by financially supporting them despite their destructive behaviors. We may do this out of love or fear, but it ultimately enables the other person to continue their harmful behaviors without facing the consequences.
Codependency can be damaging to both ourselves and those we love. It’s important to be aware of these tendencies in ourselves and make an effort to nurture our own wellbeing as well as taking care of others.
Caregiving
Codependence is a pattern of behavior in which one person enables another person’s addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement. Codependence can occur in any type of relationship, including with family members, friends, and romantic partners.
People who are codependent often have low self-esteem and may feel excessively responsible for the well-being of others. They may find it difficult to set boundaries and may stay in relationships that are unhealthy or abusive. Codependence is different from healthy interdependence, which is a mutually beneficial and supportive relationship between two people.
There are many reasons why someone might develop codependent tendencies. In some cases it may be due to growing up in a dysfunctional family where one parent was an alcoholic or had other substance abuse issues. In other cases it may be the result of being in a relationship with someone who has such problems. Traumatic experiences such as being raped or molested can also lead to codependent behaviors.
If you think you might be codependent, there is help available. Counseling and support groups can provide guidance on how to break the cycle of codependency and build healthier relationships with yourself and others
Suffocating
Suffocating behavior often stems from in security and fear. The person may feel like they are not good enough or that their partner will leave them if they don’t keep a close eye on them. This can lead to jealousy and distrust, which only further fuels the cycle of codependency. If you find yourself suffocating your partner, it’s important to take a step back and examine your motives. Are you trying to control them out of fear or in security? If so, then it’s important to work on addressing those issues within yourself before proceeding in the relationship. Otherwise, you’ll likely just end up pushing your partner away altogether.
People-pleasing (ignoring your own needs, then getting frustrated or angry)
Most of us have experienced people-pleasing at some point in our lives. Whether it’s giving in to a friend’s demands or going along with a partner’s wishes, sometimes it seems easier to just go along with what someone else wants rather than stand up for ourselves.
However, people-pleasing can become a problem when it starts to take over our lives and we begin to ignore our own needs in favor of others’. This can lead to feelings of frustration and resentment, as well as put a strain on our relationships.
If you find yourself regularly putting others first and neglecting your own needs, it may be time to start making some changes. Here are a few tips:
1) Learn to say “no.” This can be difficult if you’re used to saying “yes” all the time, but it’s important to set boundaries. Think about what you’re comfortable with and stick to those limits.
2) Communicate your needs. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or taken advantage of, let the other person know. It’s okay to ask for help or say that you need some space.
3) Take care of yourself. Make sure you’re taking time for your hobbies, interests, and self-care. Prioritizing yourself will help prevent burnout from constant people-pleasing behavior.
Obsession with a partner
1. Thinking about the person all the time: This may include daydreaming about being with the person, or constantly looking at pictures or videos of the person.
2. needing to know where they are and what they’re doing all the time: This can manifest itself as constant texts, calls, or even showing up unannounced to places where you know they’ll be.
3. Making your whole world revolve around them: This may mean cancelling plans with friends or family in order to spend more time with your partner, or only doing things that you know they’ll enjoy.
4. Feeling jealous and possessive: This usually manifests itself as feeling threatened by other people in your partner’s life, whether it be their friends, family, or even exes. You may feel like you need to compete for their attention all the time.
Excusing bad or abusive behavior
In a codependent relationship, one person enables another person’s bad or abusive behavior. Codependency is often characterized by a lack of healthy boundaries. Codependent relationships are not always abusive, but they can be.
One partner in a codependent relationship might enable the other partner’s drinking problem by buying them alcohol or making excuses for their behavior. Or, one partner might stay in an emotionally or physically abusive relationship because they believe that they can change their partner or that their love will ultimately triumph over the abuse.
Codependency is damaging to both partners in a relationship. It can lead to feelings of resentment, low self-esteem, and powerlessness. If you’re in a codependent relationship, it’s important to seek help from a therapist or counselor who can help you develop healthy boundaries and learn how to take care of yourself emotionally and physically.